Prayer - Where To Start When You Haven't For Too Long

A few months ago I wrote a post called Bible Study: Where To Start When You Just Haven’t For Too Long and it seems that several of you LOVED that post. I get comments on the post and on social media about it regularly. I plan to write more on that subject but today I wanted to talk about prayer. How to pray when you just haven't for too long. This is important! A prayer life is huge. It’s where the relationship that Christianity is develops and grows!

    So today I want to focus on how to pray. What to pray. When to Pray. Etc. How to pray to God when you haven’t since the last time you looked up and realized your life was a mess. How to pray to God like He is real and like He is present and cares. 

1. Realize that condemnation is a lie.

So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1 (NLT) 

     Condemnation means to condemn something. To declare that it is not fit for use. Condemnation tells you that you’re not enough or you’ve waited too long or God’s not interested in your problem. Condemnation is a lie and it is from our enemy. God is not angry with you. He longs to be near to you. He is not up there shaking His head or turning His back. NO! He is wooing you back to Him. That desire that you have to pray and learn to pray is Him gently tugging on your heart and calling you home.

2. God is near to you. He cares about what you care about.

Psalm 116:2 says “Because he bends down to listen, I will pray as long as I have breath!” (NLT)

     God’s heart is for you. He loves you. Remember that He sent His son to die just to make relationship with you possible. That’s a huge deal and your stubbornness isn’t enough to dim His love for you. He’s a good Father. He cares about this things you care about. 

Give your burdens to the lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall. Psalm 55:22(NLT)
Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7 (NLT)

3. What/When to pray.

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT)    

Pray about everything! The Lords prayer gives us some great guidelines and remind you of things to pray for. You can find that prayer in Matthew 6:9-13. I think it’s important to thank God and to tell Him whats going on in your heart. If you feel awkward talking to Him then tell Him that. If you think that He’s angry with you, tell Him that and watch Him correct that lie. Just start a conversation. 

I believe we should be talking with God all day through out the day. This doesn’t just happen naturally though. I suggest you assign a regular prayer time. A time each day that you talk to the Lord. This will be the foundation of your prayer life. You will build on this. 

4. You have to feed your desire.

Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NLT)

What happens when we stop praying to God is we stop desiring to pray to God. My husband and I travel quite a bit for work. While we are away for months at a time it is easy to neglect my friendships and when we get back it is awkward to get back into the pattern of regular communication. 

It is the same with God. It’s like a hunger. If you don't eat for so long you loose the feeling of hunger. If you don’t pray often you’ll stop desiring to pray and will instead allow condemnation in. If you start to pray, even when it feel awkward or you don’t really feel like doing it, you will build a hunger for it. 

5. There is grace for you.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7(NLT)

God is love. 1 Corinthians 13 tells us what love looks like. You could swap out the word love for God. God is patient and kind. God is not irritable. God keeps no record of wrongs. Go to God in prayer with these truths in mind. If you think of God as angry you’ll avoid Him because we naturally avoid conflict. If you think of God as love, you’ll run to him.

Here’s a prayer for you to start:

Father, You are a good Father. Thank You that You want to know me and spend time with me in prayer. Thank You for sending Your Son to die for me to make having a relationship with me possible. Lord, I know that I have not prayed as often as I should. I know I have neglected my relationship with You, but thank You that you are not keeping a record of my wrongs. Thank You that because of the blood of Christ, You are not counting my sins and short comings against me. Father teach me who You are and teach me who I am in You and allow that truth to grow a hunger inside of me for more of You and Your Word. Amen.

I hope you find this helpful. I hope you develop an awesome prayer life with the God who created you. i hope you’ll share this with your friends, family and followers so we can reach more people with this good news. 

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