Hey, guys! Today I am pulling an oldie and reader favorite out of the archives and dusting it off a bit. I wrote this post back in September of 2015. At the time Mike and I had just experienced a miscarriage with our first pregnancy. This was a loss like I had never experienced. It left a huge unlived life-sized hole in my heart. At the time our marriage was entering a season of intense challenges.
There was a Sunday when I was in church and everyone around me was worshiping and I mean really worshiping. It was one of those Heaven touching earth moments where freedom comes and believers get revived and people come to know Christ and shackles fall off. In that moment we were singing a song that says "you heal every broken heart," and I heard the Lord say "I am going to heal your heart."
When I heard that I sat down and folded my arms and said no thank you. The next year was long and difficult. I felt a huge rift grow between me and the Lord. And FYI, that space was me caused and "me" imagined. God never leaves you. There is never space. Space is a lie and if it is one you want to believe God won't overrule you.
I'll make a long story longer and skip to a year later. I was in another service with the same people and it was another Heaven touching earth moment and we were singing the same song and when that line played, "You heal every broken heart," with hands raised I began to weep. Like total ugly cry. I was overwhelmed by the Truth that God heals every broken heart. I told Him I didn't want His help and you know what? He stayed with me. He continued to work on me and to walk me through the valley of the shadow of death and in the end He had led me right back out to green pastures. A year later I stood there weeping and overwhelmed by the fact that He healed my heart anyways.
I don't know your story but loss is loss. So whether you've lost a dream, a child, a relationship or whatever, that hurts. Your pain is valid and mourning is a required process to healing. You are allowed to be sad and even angry. But I want you to know that you are not alone in your pain. God is there with you. Even if it is Him you are mad at (He's not intimidated by your anger by the way) He won't leave you. He's not uncomfortable with your sadness.
God is with you. He will see you through this season. I pray this post gives you some encouragement. I spent some time today going through and deepening it a bit so even if you've been here before I think it's worth the reread. Live blessed you guys and be kind...especially to yourselves today. Sincerely in Him, Andriana.
Scriptures For Loss: Comfort For The Grief Stricken & Mourning
Unfortunately, loss, heartbreak, and death are no respecter of persons. We watch dreams die and people leave and experience loss of careers and love ones. The Bible promises a day when every tear will be wiped away and we'll be safe and free from pain, sickness, and sorrow but in the meantime know that we aren't left here to suffer alone. (Revelation 21:4)
Loss hurts and recovery is a long and necessary process. In our loss and grief, we can feel so alone and isolated but our Father never leaves us when we hurt. He actually promises to be close to us and bandage us up in tough times. (Psalm 147:3) Clinging to that Truth can be a challenge though when our hearts are broken. Thankfully the Word of God has many verses for loss and grief that provide us comfort in our times of mourning.
Mike and I recently suffered a pretty substantial loss. We lost our first pregnancy to miscarriage. I am a huge believer in staying others focused in my challenging circumstances and seasons. Today I would like to share with you guys four verses that have been ministering to my broken heart. So whether you are suffering from the loss of a loved one or a child, or if you are mourning the end of something you cared about, like a job or a relationship, I pray you find comfort in these verses.
Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his wounds we are healed. Isaiah 53:4-6 ESV
It's hard to talk to someone who you believe they've never been through anything like what you're walking through. You believe them to be privileged and unable to relate. It is always more comforting to talk with someone you relate to and knows exactly how you feel and what you are dealing with compared to someone who you think has no idea what you are feeling. Jesus is aquatinted with sorrow and not just sorrow but our sorrows. The Bible says He literally bore them. He's felt your pain. He bears it with you. We can run to Him when we are hurting and find comfort because He is deeply acquainted with our pain.
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 ESV
There is a time for mourning. When we are in that season, there is no shame in mourning loss. Even if it feels like this brokenness may consume you and become a part of you forever, understand that there will be a time for it to end. Your season of mourning will end. It won't always hurt as bad as it may at the moment. Psalm 30:5 tells us that weeping may tarry for a night, but joy always comes!
The season of mourning coming to an end in no way means that you just get over your loss, but it does imply that you will step into new seasons where there will be joy, dancing, laughter, and building. I know the feeling of wanting to nurse and cling to your mourning and sadness forever because you've bought into the lie that if you move on your loss somehow ceases to matter. That is not true. You honor your loss by mourning in this season and by dancing in your next. It's a beautiful and holy thing to keeping living life in all of it's fullness and honoring the thigns and people you've lost by making the most of every moment you've been blessed with.
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10 ESV
This verse is what I call a bumper sticker verse. We've all heard it multiple times. We all quote it from time to time, and sadly I think it loses it's punch because we are so used to it. So I want you to reread it and this time I want you to read it very slowly, focusing on each word and be aware of the fact that the God of the universe, your heavenly Dad, is speaking these very words right to your broken heart today.
Focus on those promises. God looks at you, and He says "Don't be afraid, I am with you. I am your God. I am your strength. I will help you. I will hold you up, and I will hold you together." What are you afraid of today? More loss? That that pain will consume you? Are you afraid that hope is gone? Are you worried that He is disappointed? Do you worry there's no hope in trying again? Do you believe that you are alone or that He has failed you? Let that promise wash over and dissolve those fears.
This is my comfort in my affliction, that your promise gives me life. Psalm 119:50
This short and sweet verse has brought me much comfort. I have torn it apart. I have looked it up word by word in concordances and dictionaries so here is my translation…
This is my comfort, my consolation & my breath of fresh air in the midst of my loss & depression, that Your Word nourishes & repairs me. It revives my life & Your promises restore me & make me whole. Psalm 119:50 ART (Andriana Robinson Translation ;P)
This is my comfort. This is my consolation. He is my breath of fresh air in the face of hard losses. He repairs, and He restores. He keeps me going and even revives me when I give up. His promises are my life-line, and they are what makes me whole as I walk through my season of mourning.
This is your hope. This is what you look to and cling to in trying times. He never walks out on you. He is just as heartbroken at the painful and awful things that break your heart. You matter to Him, and He will not leave you in your pain and suffering. He is always good. He is eternally for you. This pain will not last forever. You can make it through this with Him by your side.
I pray these verses bring peace to your hearts. They have been such a source of comfort to me. Therefore I am blessed to be able to pass them to you. Know this; you never suffer in vain. Scripture tells us that God keeps a collection of every tear you shed. That tells me that our pain matters and is documented by Him. He has a plan. (Psalm 56:8) God is love, and He redeems, and He restores every broken heart.
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Live blessed. Be kind. See ya soon.